Men and women both oftentimes get the message, from a lot? of different places, that it’s not a good idea to show a lot of interest in someone in the early stages of getting acquainted. Instead we’re encouraged to be coy, to play hard to get, and to act indifferent even if we’re actually feeling eager. And in some situations, such tactics may even work. They might intrigue the other person, and make us seem more alluring. But even when we win we lose under such circumstances, because the ones who we desire aren’t attracted to us but rather just to the persona that we’ve put forward.
That kind of mysterious and elusive persona can be hard to sustain for very long. What’s more, it virtually ensures that we’ll never get our real needs met in a relationship because we’ve built it up on a false pretext to begin with. SoonerClick here to continue reading
By admin On September 20, 2011 No Comments
Dating someone with a culture and language that is different from your own can lead to a wonderful, eye-opening and fulfilling relationship. However, it can also be a deeply frustrating experience if you are not prepared for the many potential pit-falls along the way.
Most problems arise from the deep social programming that both you and your partner have been receiving every day since you were born. These are the systems of gestures, conventions and expressions that are so much a part of our culture we are often not even aware of them. Nearly every social exchange you have with a person? from the same culture is absolutely loaded with nuance. Whether it be your tone of voice, your choice of language or even the look? on your face, you are sending a constant stream of extra informationClick here to continue reading
By admin On September 11, 2011 No Comments
Are you single and considered very good-looking by your friends? Are you tired of dating people who you think are not attractive enough for you? If so, perhaps an Internet dating site for ‘beautiful people’ is the answer. Many of these internet sites have sprung up in recent years. They include Hot Enough, Darwin Dating, and Beautiful People. Beautiful People is probably the biggest and most famous,
Most of these dating sites have high approval standards Hot Enough requires that applicants are accepted as good-looking enough by eight out often of its members Beautiful People also only accepts applicants who have been deemed ‘beautiful’ by many of its members Apparently only 20%of applicants to Beautiful People are accepted. 2.8 million applicants have been rejected.? The founder of Beautiful People, Robert Hintze, described the site as like a ‘game reserve of leopards and? gazelles’. He alsoClick here to continue reading